So today I had some issues with my fellow colleague. Basically I think the issue was because of me feeling superior than my colleagues so when I want to talk about this one patient, my colleagues thought that he supposed to work-up this patient. Well, I’m kinda mad with my colleague, it was as felt I don’t want to work while actually I’m doing quite good work that day- so I keep my emotions and working in silence for the rest of the day. Eventually, this person complained about my attitude to my friend, and yes, problems started when we talked about it.

Interpersonal relationship problems came when we talk about it. Because there is this ambience about being good in front of others, there’s this ego, there’s this superiority complex , and lots of everything else. So what I want to underline is : I think it’s important to keep ourself being mindful. While being mindful and calm handling every situation, I think it will be okay. But If I’m doing this silent treatment thing so people understood about me- that’s not going to solved anything. That’s what just happened with me and my parent the other day ( see my previous blog post). No matter how mad you are with a person, I think smiling and keeping up the dialogue rather than not answering him or her is essential. Or probably it’s even better you could talk about it nicely. This silent treatment attitude doesn’t work at all, it gives you heartache.

Remember, we don’t let our ego, our sense of “being someone important” involved in our daily relationship. It’s toxic and dissolving. Rather than playing it like I’m the boss, maybe you need to lower your head a bit and played “I’m no one but I’m doing this as best as I can”. I need help only if I really could not do it on my own, but as long as I’m capable of doing it at the moment- and human are capable a lot of thing, really – I’m not gonna my lazy-ass mind be the boss of my mentality but instead get to the warzone and work it right.

One another important thing, fight or flight.

Most of our daily activity requires fast decision whether is fight or flight. When someone is giving us this huge emotions, remember we fight about it or just let it flight. Most of the time, lots of things are better be flighted out- because it’s not important enough to be fighting for. Winning doesn’t have to be going into the battlefield. Sometimes we had our faulty thought as well, and better to be left out rather than giving a whole another stress of fighting.

So yes, one of most underrated but happened daily is interpersonal relationship problem. And in my case, it is mostly due to my ego – my high persona – that I was blamed for. Being a lot more humble person and accepting other person’s flaws, I think it’s needed to have a good relationship with others.