I just finished watching a movie called The Prophet. It was a 2009 movie and won Cannes. It was very good, I haven’t watched a movie this good in a while..I honestly think that it spots on my number 1 favourite movie ever, beating Manchester by the Sea. Tahar Rahim was phenomenal. It had everything in the movie: from thriller, sad nuance, acting, background, music, Islam, French.
Anyway I just keep can’t survive my self from blocked during my interactions with parents, as if I’m trying to contradict everything that they want. I’m just self-pity myself, I got a lot from them, but how could I dissed them? This is not being grateful. I have to keep myself remind my keyword from last topic : Abundance.
It’s better I’m being quiet and locked myself in my room, confined to a room and wondering when I will released from this intimate prison that I create myself, which is my home since the very beginning. It’s like I never move from here. See? I’m dong it again. Abundance.
But I personally think that I’m still on the verge of letting myself go from my parents. It’s like I did not have a freedom. But to think more, I use the keyword Entitled and it clicked. I feel entitled. I did not deserve all of this luxury in my home considering the treatment I gave to the owner of the house. I should be easier with things.
That brings me to my newly number 1 spot movie of all time : The Prophet. Let me think again one time I’m manipulating myself with the question I don’t have the freedom. Be in a real prison like in the movie. You might want to think again. I have a lot to be grateful. Sometimes you just forgot, just like the character Malik in the movie, he was given immunity by his boss but then he got greedy and later in the movie he became conflicted with the other gangs. The part that brings difficulties : Forgot. Forget to be grateful. Forget to act well. Forget that we are all tested in here. It’s just temporary.
But back to the reason why I put this movie to be my number one. It is most definite representing my life: the oppressed for being in prison with my mind. The dream of being free. I also like the excitement of when Malik first went for a plane ride. Or when he enjoys the sound of outer world when he first came out from jail. Or when he felt guilty for killing the guy at the first time and it all coming back to him, in an unthoughtful way. Or when he follows his dream and noticed a signal from God, like a danger sign, that eventually became the title of this movie.
It is filled with the struggle that a man needs to understand life.
Now I would like to address that everyday we undeniably battle with ourselves. But what if we could made peace with it ? Here’s how, we need some remembrance for ourselves that things could be better or worse only by changing our mindset. Sometimes we need a long way to catch the nail that hidden under our mind, but here’s some way to ease our mind- remember some keywords. If you’re messing yourself with your mind, remember those keywords in order to gain momentum about how you want to overpower yourself. This is my keyword so far that worked for me :
This is by far, the most psychological-high class-yet easy way to be down to earth. Yeah, most of our problems are ego, and the ego comes from the thought that we feel entitled. We feel that our need and want must be accommodated by other people, resulting in a chaotic mind especially when our expectations did not meet our reality.
Being grateful is one of the most important thing in the world. Sometimes the word being grateful or blessed is not quite helpful for reminding ourself since it was overused in the daily conversation, but the word abundance is so personal and a good-positive-catchy word to remind us that we already had so much today, and if we’re focusing about all those thing, we might distracted from focusing all other problems that bugging our mind.
3. Get yourself together
In korean words, jeongshin charyeo. Come to your senses. It is very helpful when your mind is cloudy, with lust,emotions, crazy thought, daydreaming. Tell it to yourself like a snap, with a huge excalamation point to realize what you should focusing instead thinking crazy in you little corner of mind.
4. Thou Shall Pass
Just remember, everything wil pass. Your feeling will change and it will not be constant.
I hope it’s useful. What is your own keyword? Share your thought in comments.
Hello! Here with me again, with all the shortcomings in life that I faced, albeit all of other things, somehow I could relate why the name Shortchamp was perfect, because shortcomings are sometimes could be difficult to manage if we don’t keep our head straight, but with some little tricks and tips here’s how to overcome daily struggle and become the Shortchamp!
Act like Fleabag
If you haven’t heard or watch Fleabag, I recommended you to watch it. It’s very entertaining yet giving a subtle example how to deal with self-insecurity that we have. Somehow our life are related with Fleabag struggle, drown in the midst of other people’s perfection, and yet we’re still manage our way. That what happened with last night’s my family dinner. It was for my mom’s birthday dinner. And people were seemed like having lots of fun – except me. I want to finish it as soon as possible. The restaurant was so good, it was Arabian restaurant so it had different vibe than we usually had, and the manager was really helpful. On my way home I’m thinking, the feeling I had probably the same with what I had 10 years ago. There was this feeling that I am not involved into the conversations. Maybe as an Introvert, I don’t like small talks. And in family dinner, people glorified small talks. They talked about the changing traffic lamp as if it was the next great amendment. Probably the reason is the fact we met member of the family way too often so the conversations got boring. But still the point is, that I remember exactly one scene from Fleabag when she was struggling (meanwhile us-the audience- laughing) facing the dinner, but somehow she managed to do it well. She kept smiling during the whole thing, and answering people’s uncomfortable questions like a charm, although we viewers knew it about how miserable her feeling was. And what I’m lacked of is positioning myself during with some other people with my slogan I’d rather not talk unless you’re asking attitude- and it’s not going anywhere, doesn’t it? At some moments I used the fleabag character- like to face things in my daily situations, which represents as the quite, smiling when needed, not being too loud, edgy, attentive, made nice funny comments, losing your mind at incredible times, calm (with knowing that you’re panic inside), but most of all..gracefully imperfect. And it’s not like you’re not being the other character, you’re still yourself, but you diminish those mind-fucking demons that kept you from being who you really best-self are.
2. Stop being over-sensitive and over-thinking
If you want to make things right, then this is probably the sole reason why your other parts of the brain didn’t work. It was being over-sensitive to things and over-thinking as well.
We all know that over or too much in anything is not good, and that includes our mind as well. Mental health was the sole most important thing right now, it gives you a lot of hell if you’re not managing it in the right way, the same thing when you’re not controlling your blood sugar you will eventually become diabetes, it also works if you’re not taking care of your mind- it become toxic as well!
3. Your life’s a situational comedy
One of my favourite sitcom that was US based is Young and Hungry. And it usually had the best time when the rerun aired on TV, which was 6 pm on weekday so it was the right time for winding and eating dinner while watching Gabi and friends. The people were so hilarious, the comedy was smart, it was almost like the next generation’s of Friends. So, sometimes there were a HUGE problem occured during the storym but somehow people were making it so effortlessly funny- and it was the contrary in my life, where every little things become a chaotic drama. And I asked myself lots of times, life’s are way too serious already, why not let having fun a little? I mean, problems will arise, you know it yourself, one go and one comes ahead. If outside problems were not appeared, most of the time we ourself hack our little mind to create the modern world problems : anxiety, fear, jealousy, hatred. Why not enjoy the life that God had already created for us ( which had each own different story) and enjoy the show? Act like Gabi, silly, charismatic, funny, and take everything EASY. It eventually become one. I really like the part when she made mistakes and her way of apologising to Josh(her boss/boyfriend) is create a cat’s roaring sound, which actually works for her (not for me to my boss I guess!). What is the best way to turn a dramatic event in our life, stressing too much or making it as a life-situational comedy? The best laugh always come from the darkest event. Life’s hard already- take it simple, laugh with it, no matter how difficult your problems/worry/fear looks like to solve, the best answer is to get through it. And why not get through it while having some fun.
4. Don’t want for human acknowledgment
Everyone’s want to be acknowledged. Everyone’s is thinking most about themself- most of all. Well some of them do care about others- but most of the time they do think about what are their routines/struggles/problems. And if you’re not gaining enough attention from your community, what are you doing? You reach for one. Trust me. Even the best people had everything to do with being acknowledged with others. We live in social world. It is imperative.
When some people had talents and their working it well, they reach the attention they deserve- and people called them a success- and that’s a winning. Am I right?
But what happened when people did not have the right talent, or wasted in wrong field/workplace/subject? They reach for attention by showing their incapability, asking for help, told what they felt to other people. It become toxic they become infamous- they do all the wrong things to attract attention. But no one wants to keep something by themselves. At times people create distraction (other things that unrelated from their primary job), and it gains attention, so they move to those other field where they reach audience for their talent. At some times in some conditions they feel they can’t move, they need the money, or they need the status, so they keep working/studying/doing things but they sharing the feeling to other closest people. Or they got drunk, wasted, trying to forget their problems, felt better, and continuing doing those things the next day. It happened to most of us: we don’t know what we want. We are obliged to know what we want, and some people took days, some took years, some took a lifetime to know what they want.
But here’s the thing that is tricky : HUMANS are craving for something what they want, but once they got one, they ungrateful bastards did not use the blessings in the rightful way in what they had achieved, and WANTED OTHER THINGS INSTEAD.
All the things that move a human is the wanting factor. A person wants coffee, wants a good job, wants to be abroad, wants to be popular, wants to be acknowledged, it never really finish. They forgot the essential part : blessing for what they already have from what they want.
So, here’s the tips in your little life: don’t crave for acknowledgement. It is hurtful. People keep dissapointing you in so many ways.
Do things just because you like doing it. Or at least you’re able to do it. Concentrate on something keeps you calm (truth), and let your mind focus and not wander for other things that corrupt in your mind.
Just through your life.
I’m not saying enjoy your life- you may be pissed off when some strangers ask you to enjoy your life, but through your life. With anything that you already owned, be grateful. Cherish it. For what you don’t have but you want? Ask yourself, did you really want it or it’s just a simple craving that goes unwary in your mind. If it’s something that you really really really really really really really really really want ( YES I said those milion of times because the effort will be so much painful than your simple ” I WANT” piece of mind), then you need to focus in it. Make it as a priority in your life. Eliminate others.
5. You are allowed to share
Your mind is a mood swing. Sometimes you need to cry for all the things you opressed in yourself. Cry. in front of your closest person. Make at least a person note your struggle, so you’re feeling less alone. You are allowed to share. And if..if..you don’t have the closest person or you don’t trust others..then trust God. Share your story to God. Pray and tell all your stories- ALL your stories. Here’s connected to previous points that don’t crave for human acknowledgment, but God’s.
Once you cried, you will feel a LOT better, then your mood swings change in to “calm state” again- remember, life’s upside down, and we all here in this world is for..yeah you get this one right, TESTED. You’re not in this life to become the best writer ever, or greatest doctor ever, or being the most aspiring actor ever. No. You’re being tested. And I hope this writing give you some confidence in facing -yes, yourself– to prevent being mentally disturbed.
It does easy to spent a weekend into a good one when you have the time and money, but the more important thing is how you control and put your emotions into it.
So today I had a pretty solid saturday, me and my friend played tennis in the morning, then me and my other friend had a nice lunch at a sushi restaurant. I bought a nice Zara pants with a sale price (such a steal-especially when the pants fits you well, it is quite difficult to find my size and length) and order a nice streusel pie for my mother’s birthday next week. And finding out a scientific magazine was sent out to my home( I’m a part of the member and I’m quite proud with it lol). And me and my family drove to the airport to take my sister’s leaving for the States (three weeks program though). And we had a nice afternoon coffee at starbucks in the airport (don’t you just love coffee shop at airport?). So pretty much I had a pretty solid day but it winds up into being in a car with my parents for like 45 minutes and it is not easy to hold yourself for not chanting any opinions or comments that could raise up fire or bring debates with your parents.So silent is my best friend. But somehow you don’t want to miss a moment as well, so being way to silent will leave you an ignorance impression with your parents, so it leaves with this result of thought : no matter how great or bad your day is, what matters is how you put your emotions and feelings into it. If it was a crappy day but you bring all things with light and enjoy every moment even the crappiest one and take it as a life lesson that will happen only ONCE in your life, you’ll feel like a movie star doing a scene in your big movie life. But even if it is a good day but you twirls up the silly little things and stressing everything or overthinking everything and make a fuss about any uncomfortable feeling that you felt, the result will be you will feel bad for yourself. So it really depends on you. Yes, shockingly, you.
Tips for weekend : make a list of things you want to do and you need to do. Then do it. Then you’ll be a champ. But at times you need to just roll with it and let some space for any extra activity so you’re not cramming for ticking all the lists.
Hello! It’s been since so long since I wrote a post, but things have been quite busy lately with all the work stuff, but finally I have winded up and had a pleasant day to write off, cheers!
So what I want to write about now is how people, well some people are still into likes and dislikes factor. You can’t just judge someone by one act, people should receive second chance, am I right? I’m not going to talk too much about it but that’s what happened in my office.
So I just had a haircut today, pretty solid. Oscar was held couple days ago and I’m so glad that Taika Waititi won for best original screenplay. I just thought, all out of the things that I want to do in my life, I think I already know what I’m here for : writing a screenplay! Ha, me and my naive thought. But that’s okay right, having a dream?
Anyway I’m reading The Opposite Of Loneliness by Marina Keegan( she was very smart but died too young, sad).
If you’re missing what have happened with me: I just finally did a presentation that have been prepared for weeks(CHAMP!), and I don’t know lately I’ve been lighter on doing things, like accepting playing tennis on workday night, having laughs with my junior, I think we do need entertainment that was created by our surroundings instead of spending time with youtube, movies, and songs.
I just read this article that If you realize an urge for doing your bad habit, you have to change it into some goods, such as if I’m having the energy to day dreaming with listening to music and walking around my room, I will take my laptops and write it down.
Anyway talking about write it down, Taika Waititi complained about mac keyboard during his interview after the oscar speech. And I think I’m starting to realize it. Looks like I’m having the Taika scriptwriter talent inside me *smirk.
I was speaking this afternoon and I had already prepared it for quite a long time. Everything went well until one comment came from my attendee. She told me that I did not present it quite well, she said I’m boring and the presentation was quite unclear despite my good material. She said she was dissapointed about how I present. I was mad, and rage at that time, and blaming myself as well. I mean, if I really want to be a teacher I should be good at presentation, right? But turns out I am still far from good.
What made the whole day was more dissapointing was when I told to my parents about how I felt. The didn’t relieve or support my story but they kinda agree with my attendee.
Sometimes when you are at a down side, what you need less is another comment that shows u’re bad already right?
January through February was one of the greatest time for movie-lovers since awards show are everywhere. Of course I’m one of the foolish that keeping up with the update. I love watching and predicting the winner, or see the celebrities that went and won the awards..but wait.
Joaquin Phoenix recently won for his Joker role in BAFTA, and he was saying something about self-righteous condemnation. And I was thinking, it was true. The whole game was just a praised for others to others, and that was contrary to belief of mindfulness, which is not accepting praise for others to make our own happiness. The more we crave for recognition, the more we forgot how true meaning of happiness are. And it drives us crazy, to earn people’s recognition. Sometimes we were overlooked.
I used to love awards show. But now that I understand, it is just a shallow thing. It was just a pat of shallow worldly ambition. The reason why I opposed with this because 1) I might not get any award since I am not in the scope anyway and 2) we are living for something bigger.. and that is not a stupid award that recognizes you by handful of people.
So here’s the list of ideas that I could use to write a novel – I had so many ideas and I just can’t pick one. Millenialls dillema.
Resistance – Story of doctors who felt oppressed by harsh medical environment about the seniority and unjust, and made a secret group within the hospital to give a warning about the insanity that happened inside of the doctors environment that resulted in damaging the patient’s life
The Sun – The story of a father that try to find his lost daughter in Bali. He was helped by a young freshman students who have the same subject interest with the father, which is a professor. Eventually the journey made this student find himself, and so does the father.
The Last Eye – The story of a guy who find himself trying to search a meaning behind her mother’s death, it brings him to a journey meet two friends. These three people resulted in an envy and love relationship, and also brings the secret of her mother’s death.
The Kingdom – A politic and medical related theme about a freshman doctor trying to discovering the secret of high-class doctor society and the truth, corrupt, affair, and manipulation.
Or maybe I’m just trying too hard putting my subjects of work in these fiction? I’m really good with ideas but not so good with executing it. Typical me.
There’s this one bag of tea that I keep so long and use it on the right day. And this is the right day. A rainy 5 pm saturday. I remember once when I went to Paris (yes, I finally did!) me and my best friend were having an early dinner at a Morocco-esque restaurant in Paris and it was raining, so everyone was going inside, and the restaurant was crowded, but we had so much fun, and we drank Peppermint tea! So at my flight back, somehow I had to stay one night in Zurich (awesome) and there is this freebag of peppermint tea in breakfast hall so I snatched it and I bring it home to my country.
Reminiscing those days, when we walk all over Seine rivers, exploring the city, having dinner at a Parisian restaurant, it was one of the fine days of my life.